STP Guide: How to Choose & Use a Stand-to-Pee Device

STP guide: how to choose and use a stand-to-pee device

Your first time with an STP can feel like a lot, and that's normal. With the right device and a little practice, most people get the hang of it faster than they expect. Here's how to pick one, where to put it, how to practice, and what to do when it isn't working.

What is an STP?

An STP (stand-to-pee device) is a prosthetic that lets you pee standing at a urinal or toilet. A cup seals against your body, and a shaft sends the pee forward and down. For a lot of us, it takes much of the stress and dysphoria out of public restrooms.

Many STPs also work as everyday packers, and 3-in-1 models can pack, pee, and play.

Choosing your STP

• STP Freely: our most popular first STP. It's lightweight with a wide, forgiving cup, so it's the easiest to learn on.
• STP Freely XL: a wider opening and longer shaft, made for fast or heavy streams without backflow.
• The Lou: a deep cup and angled shaft built for the urinal first. It packs, pees, and plays.

Fast stream? Pick a model with a bigger opening, like the Freely XL or The Lou. If you're always stopping and starting, the device may be the problem, not your technique. See all STPs.

Step 1: Find your position

This is the part most guides skip. Your urethra is about one inch behind your clitoris, which is further back than most people think. It's the number one reason STPs don't work at first.

Line the cup up with your urethra, not your clitoris. Take some time to find it before your first try. Once you know where it is, positioning gets easy fast.

Step 2: Practice in stages

Don't take your STP straight to a public urinal. Go through these in order. Each one builds the muscle memory for the next.

1. Shower, water off. Get naked in the shower with the water off. Practice the seal, start slowly, and check for leaks. With the water off, you can tell pee from shower water, and cleanup is easy.
2. Toilet, no clothes. Once the seal is reliable, move to the toilet with nothing on. Don't rush this one. Getting it clean every time here sets you up for doing it dressed.
3. Underwear on. Ideally that's STP underwear or a harness. Both hold your STP in the right spot, which takes most of the guesswork out.
4. Fully dressed. Add pants only once you're clean every time in underwear. Practice dressed in your own bathroom, and once that's reliable, you're ready for the urinal.

Step 3: Manage your stream

With a fast or heavy stream, you might need to stop and start a couple of times so the STP can drain. That's normal. If you pee faster than it drains, it backs up and overflows.

• Start slow until the seal feels solid, so the cup can keep up.
• If you're always stopping and starting, your device may not suit your body. The Freely XL and The Lou have wider cups and openings for heavier flow.
• Stopping mid-pee every time isn't great for your bladder long-term. If it's happening every time, think about switching devices.
• Go before you really have to. A full bladder means a faster stream that's harder to control.

Step 4: Clothes and the urinal

Looser pants make it a lot easier. Tight jeans can keep your zipper from opening far enough to position the device. If you love fitted pants, try unbuttoning and pulling them down a little, just not too low.

For most situations, dropping your pants a bit is faster than threading the STP through your fly. The fly is worth it with a belt, dress pants with a clasp, or work gear that's a pain to take on and off all day.

At the urinal, keep your STP angled slightly down. STP underwear with a built-in opening means no adjusting or hunting for the spot mid-stream.

Step 5: After you go

Give your STP a second to drain before you take it out. There's usually a little left in the cup. A quick dab with tissue before tucking back in takes care of it. That's normal, and a drained device won't leave you with wet underwear.

Cleaning and care

• Clean after every use with warm water and soap, or Packer & Toy Cleaner with Aloe Vera. It's gentle and safe for silicone.
• TGS silicone STPs are dishwasher safe. Use the top rack with no detergent. It's the easiest deep clean.
• Smell won't wash out? Soak it in diluted bleach, 10 parts water to 1 part bleach, for 10 minutes. Rinse well and air dry completely. Silicone is non-porous, so this sanitizes it without damage.
• Store it somewhere cool and dry, out of direct sun. Before longer-term storage, dust it with Packer Renewing Powder to keep the silicone soft.

Still not working?

If you've practiced for a few weeks and it's still not clicking, it's almost always one of these three:

1. Position. The cup is on your clitoris instead of your urethra. This is the most common cause of leaks. Go back to step 1 and find your urethra again.
2. Cup size. If the cup is too small or shallow for your body, it'll leak no matter what you do. The Freely XL and The Lou have much deeper cups than entry-level STPs.
3. Stream speed. If position and cup are fine, your stream is probably faster than the STP can drain. See step 3, or try a wider-cup model.

One more option: if you love a device but the opening is too narrow for your flow, you can carefully widen it with a hobby knife. It's permanent, so only do it if you're okay with the risk.

FAQ

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Keep reading: Packing 101, how to wear a packer, best packers, and when to replace your underwear.