By: Aaron Capener
A good friend of mine mentioned an excellent piece of advice to someone who is new to learning how to wear a packer. "Your packer should never enter a room before you do."
Everybody is different when it comes to how big they like their bulge to be. The key is to find something that enhances how you feel. This article is about how different positions affect your bulge. It also touches on the options you have to keep your packers in place. Lastly, we cover how the size of your packer affects things.
You'd think it'd be as easy as slapping your packer in your boxers and walking out the door. But when you are still learning how to wear a packer it can be more complicated than you think.
When choosing where to position your packer, something you should keep in mind is how visible you want your bulge. Some people wear packers so they are the only people who know it's there. Others like other people to be able to notice it.
One of the key features is where you position your packer on your body. For those wanting a more noticeable projection, you'll want to keep the packer higher on your pelvic bone. This will make sure your bulge is visible when you turn to the side. If you're looking for the least amount of bulge, try dropping the position lower on your pelvic bone. The closer your packer is to your inner thighs, the less noticeable it will be to others.
This is also great to know if you are wearing an STP. As STPs are generally harder than soft packers, they can be trickier to hide. This sometimes makes it look like you have a 24/7 boner. Even guys who want their bulge to show, don't generally want this to happen. You can reduce the boner-effect, by pushing your STP to lower down in your pants.
Once you've decided where you want to place your packer, there are two main "poses" for your packer.
Packing up means that you position the shaft of your packer so that it runs along one of your hip flexors. Cis guys - and tailors in particular - will refer to this as either "dressing left" or "dressing right." If you ever have a suit tailored, your tailor might ask you which you prefer. This is so that they can create a little extra breathing room for your member.
Whether you dress left or right is a matter of personal taste. Either way, packing up will reduce the appearance of the size of your bulge. If you like packing big, but don't want an obscene bulge, this is a great option for you. Also, many STPs, such as the Sam, are designed to pack up
There is a major disadvantage to this method, however. Tight, thin pants might create a very detailed view of your shaft and head. If you're a dancer and have to wear tights on a regular basis, this is probably not going to be your best position. Competitive swimmers and speedo-wearers should also stay away from this pose.
Packing down means that you position the shaft of your packer so that it rests straight down over the ball sac. Positioned like this, even the smallest Mr. Limpy size will create a pretty decent bulge.
There's Only One You
When learning how to wear a packer, you need to remember that every person's body is different and different people want different looks. Some people think they want a giant bulge, but then realize how uncomfortable it can be to wear all day every day with a 6-inch member in their pants. Some bigger guys might want to back big because it feels more in proportion with the rest of their body. Of course, the opposite goes for smaller guys. Guys under the age of 13, will want to choose a packer like the Archer Youth, as a giant bulge will look very out of place.
It all comes down to trial and error. Most guys will want to start with a 5-inch packer and play around with it. See how it feels, and determine if you want to go bigger or smaller. Get in front of the mirror and try different things to see what is most comfortable for you!
Keeping Your Packer In Place
Unless you're wearing a speedo, throughout your day you might experience your packer shifting around a bit. Don't worry! Even cis-gender males experience the discomfort of their own phallus moving around. However, we have a few options to keep your packer where it needs to be. There are a variety of harnesses on the market. The Multi-color Packer Harness is a great option for people who want to pack every day, but don't own an entire drawer of packer underwear.
Some people find it more comfortable with a simple jockstrap, like the Jockmail, under their underwear. Speaking of underwear we've got boxers with zipper pouches as well as briefs with special pouches that comes with a foam pad that can give you a bulge without a phallus.
There a limiting belief that the bigger you pack the more of a "man" you are. I struggled with this when I was first learning how to wear a packer. I wanted to order a phallus that was at least 6" long just so I could feel more "manly". But the fact of the matter was, it didn't matter what other people thought, it was more about how I felt.
Mentally, my dysphoria is more at ease when I'm packing with a smaller packer then with a giant one in my pants. Mind you, some guys want other people to notice it and depend on that to avoid being misgendered. If that is the case, then you will definitely want something on the bigger side like this Mr. Limpy. If you are trying to be discreet, you'll want to look into something like the Archer that's a little smaller.
All in all, it's about how you feel. When you first are learning how to wear a packer, it'll be about experimenting. Test different options and try new things to find out what feels right to you. There's not a cure-all to tell you exactly how to pack, but there are tips like these that will help point you in the right direction. At the end of the day, remember who you are. Stay true to what you believe. And know you are wonderful.